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When a person is down in the world,
When I was about to move from an apartment to a house, a woman I hardly knew, who lived down the hall, left a message under my door saying, If you need packing help, Im a helluva packer. I was happy to accept her offer, because I happen to be a pretty terrible packer. Marge, a retired army nurse, arrived at my door the next night. When she looked at my packed boxes, she said, Oh, dear. Worse than I thought. She plunged in unpacking and repacking what Id started. She cut the number of boxes I needed in half! She was direct and no-nonsense and came back for three nights, teaching me as we went, until we were done. I felt the whole time that she had sensed my great need and responded with real help. I thought of Marge when my friend Kathy suggested Real Help would be a great topic for a Fresh Views. Real help is very different from the common, Let me know what I can do to help, that many of us offer. It seems to assess the situation and respond to the heart of the need. As a therapist, Kathy once went to her boss feeling confused and overwhelmed. She was feeling desperate and had no idea how to get out of that chaotic place. After hearing Kathys unsorted-out problem, her boss asked, What would relieve you the most? Kathy thought a bit and then said one thing really bogging her down was a bunch of late discharge summaries. Her boss simply said, Give them to me and Ill do them. It is the vivid feeling that stands out for Kathy as she remembers this event years later. She told me it was hard to convey in words the surprise and relief she felt when her boss knew what Kathy needed more than she did. Shes not sure what she had expected maybe a lecture on better time management, which would have added to her burden. Kathy was clear: I want to say how big this was for me. It actually changed me forever and taught me life can surely change on a dime. Real help is usually concrete. It can include introducing just the right person or resource, bringing soup, or offering help with packing, to mention just a few possibilities.
To be on the receiving end of real help is to be deeply touched, to feel the goodness of mankind, to be lifted!
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FOCUS: Real Help
an ounce of help is better than a pound of preaching.
Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton
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Real help responds precisely to someones need. It requires that the helper be present, tuned in, willing to respond, and courageous enough to do or say the odd thing to fill that need.
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