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FOCUS:Generosity
They looked at me, and were so full of delight in the pleasure they were giving me that some final thread of resistance gave way and I understood not only how entirely generous they were but also that generosity might be the greatest pleasure there is.
If generosity is truly the greatest pleasure there is, what should we know about it? I asked a lot of people what they thought.
It seems generosity can show up in many ways. For example: As the quote from Maxwell intimates, in order for the full win-win power of generosity to be felt, the receiver must be open. When I was in the middle of cancer treatment, initially I had trouble accepting all the food, gifts and kindness coming my way. Slowly, like Maxwell, I saw the enjoyment being generous brought the givers and opened myself to receive more graciously. What a delicious experience!
Then there are ways the generosity equation can get tainted. In The Mysterious Affair at Styles, Agatha Christie describes what can happen to generosity when there are strings attached. You know, Emily was a selfish old woman in her way. She was very generous, but she always wanted a return. She never let people forget what she had done for them - and, that way she missed love. To my mind, if one expects a lot in return for a generous act, it has become something else. What do you think? Maybe a bargaining chip, or a bribe? (This happens in politics a lot.) Mohammed Ali made this sweeping statement, I try not to speak about all the charities and people I help, because I believe we can only be truly generous when we expect nothing in return.
Is Ali’s assessment is true? I want to keep thinking about it. People who donate large sums of money to create beautiful public parks named for them, for example, want to be remembered, but their gifts bring others a great deal of pleasure. But if we, as Agatha Christie’s character Emily, demonstrated, want credit for all the good we do, do we truly miss the experience of love? That is worth a lot of reflection.
There will not be a telegathering this month because I'm going on vacation to California! Hope you're also enjoying end of summer vacations.
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